OK – it’s not really that bad, but I did buy 44 oz. of Diet Mountain Dew loving this afternoon after my lunch break. For $1.38, I am now happily caffeinated, although I’m still lacking focus.
I have an issue that I want to bounce past the blogosphere this afternoon. I recently found out that a member of my family’s church passed on in an ATV accident. The fellow was 60, but lived at home with his mom (the church’s caretaker) and although I really didn’t know him, sending a card with my condolences is the respectful thing to do for his mother who I’ve known since I was a newborn. What I am wondering though is if I should enclose money in the card or if I should make a donation in his memory to the church. And this isn’t a matter of my “no-spend” rule. I just don’t know what would be the best thing to do.
It’s kind of funny – I’m 30 years old, but up until my recently married state, I’ve kind of skidded by on the whole “gift giving” thing. (All of my friends are currently howling with laughter, because they have probably been victims of my crappy gift giving.) My typical gift for weddings? Picture frames (bought on sale at Kohl’s) or photo albums (usually found at Target). I have never spent a lot of money on gifts and was rather horrified when I opened a card from my childhood best friend Gina and found $40 in it. I mean – GINA! I probably owe you money from childhood! You have a child and I still imagine that we’re on our parents’ allowances and don’t have a lot to give. And my other friends who gave me pricy gifts and have upcoming weddings – c’mon people – you should know me better! You could have just given me $10 or a six-pack and I would have been grateful.
Sorry – this one is something of a rambler, but it’s kind of funny how things change when you get older. I know that if I sent a sympathy card to the church caretaker, that should more than suffice. But I feel older and I feel like it’s finally time for me to step up to the plate and act like an adult and not just rely on my folks to put my name on a wedding gift for a distant relative or to ignore the customs of giving money for memorials at funerals.
The good part is that because of my recent no-spend (sans my caffeinated goodness), I can actually afford to tuck in a check or some cash into this sympathy card. I can look on my buddy Ben’s wedding registry and actually buy him something that he wants.
I don’t know … what’s the consensus on gift giving?
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